I believe everyone has their own untold episodes of life stories
...which they
kept in their journal, diary and maybe in your mind palace. I also believe that
your stories do not always means a mere story but also include with critics,
comments, monologue or your feelings about it. However, what if you get an idea
of sharing those experiences or stories and open it up on your blog, in the
social media and other social networking that can enlarge the number of people
reading it.
Your stories can be a love story (maybe a sad love story), your journey
of fighting against the cancer or other kind of diseases, your travel hollaaa
stories or perhaps your story of getting yourself cured from mental illnesses.
Honestly, I really like to read every kind of confessions or life-experience
stories from blog, website (and IIUM Confession). For me, I know what happened
to the people at the other side of the world, other states and other places. It
doesn’t matter who write it but the things that happened, the points the writer
wanted to convey and the opinions, views the writer wants to say is all what I
wanted to know.
So, your stories. If you really want to share your experiences in your
blog, it is very good for your self-fulfillment and self-development because I
know there are some people who love to write and find enjoyment doing it (personality
basis). If you know, there are lot of experience-telling in the internet from
happy stories to very depressive stories. One of my favourite and lovely
experience-sharing ever is #RecoveryHeroes where all the experiences come from
those whom had freed themselves with mental illness/disorder. However, here I
list down the pro and cons of doing so. So, to begin with, let me start first
with the cons.
Your experience-sharing may subject you to people’s judgement and critiques (especially if you are not ready for it)
Your experience-sharing may subject you to people’s judgement and critiques (especially if you are not ready for it)
To be honest, yes it is. Especially if you have your own blog where
everyone knows it is your blog, the writer is you and all the contents
originated from you. From your style of
writing, people may find you as a sensitive person, overthinking person, negative
person or other bad characters you list down. Not all people can understand your own stories especially if it involved
with your very personal matter for example:
About your depressed love story, the most common thing included is your
feelings which portrayed most of the personality about you. People can’t just
understand feelings but they love the storylines.
How about the very inter-personal matter like quitting pornography,
cured from depression or eating disorder (example). It is very rare to read
confessions about how people quit pornography except they make themselves as an
anonymous writer and place their writings on public website.
Quitting pornography perhaps is very delightful moments for the world,
to the religion and to the society because it indicates less exploitation over
the women, less damaged brain, less extra-ordinary sexual cases and less increment
on pedophiles case. However, telling your story of quitting pornography on your
own blog will certainly create perception and views of your friends or your
circular acquaintances be slightly torn and damaged towards you.
Same goes to former bulimic and anorexic people, what usually happened
to them is they gained some weight as the recovery result. Some people love
your story and will encourage you to live with a happy live and happy thought but
there will be some people who see otherwise and say
This commonly happened when you shared your experience of so in the social media like Instagram where people can just give you an instant comment. If you are not fully-recovered, maybe you will find yourself not ready to accept those negative comments and turn to depressive state back. People may find you with low emotional equality and low-esteem which they forget that it was your past.
“Your current body is not
healthy. You’re fat and you’re not doing it correct.”
This commonly happened when you shared your experience of so in the social media like Instagram where people can just give you an instant comment. If you are not fully-recovered, maybe you will find yourself not ready to accept those negative comments and turn to depressive state back. People may find you with low emotional equality and low-esteem which they forget that it was your past.
Travelling can be an open-minded adventure or perhaps ruined your mood.
If it is a good travel experience, the writing will certainly go for all the
good and precious moments, the beautiful sun, moon and the stars shining in the
dark sky and so on. However, there will be some people who’ll just think maybe
you should donate your money to poor people rather than spending it for
travelling. Mehhhh, sucha typical minded man. What if writing on bad travelling
experience, people just find you as a negative person.
What about other type of stories? Are you ready for people’s judgement on
you? Are you really ready to open it up? It’s up to you. If you're not ready, better think twice before it cause emotional hurt.
Enough for Cons, I guess. I don’t have any intention to scare you.
Hahaha. So here, the PROS which I really waited for to write on.
1. Your experience might guide others
1. Your experience might guide others
Not all recovery stories contain bad sides, of course. You might wonder
how your friendship be affected after publishing such story. The story you have
published will absolute add up some more information about you in your friends’
memory. So, don’t be shy about it. Just be confident that you are really
confessing it all.
Why I say so?
Because you don’t know some of your friends might having the same
problem like you but they not yet see any solution (and of course they won’t
tell you if it is very private). Your story might not hit all the readers but
it obviously hit those who need help.
The solution you wrote down in your blog, can be your way of solving
problem but it also help other people who having the same problem to initiate the
first step to make it solved too.
For example, back to the story of quitting pornography or maybe quitting
smoking. In this world, not all men watch pornography. There’re some men who watch
and some of them didn’t. You story might attract small portion of people who
didn’t but your story will obviously attract those who wants to help themselves
and to escape from the habit. Your story of absolutely saying ‘STOP’ to pornography
will be their motivation.
Same goes to the smoking, there a lot of people either men or women
smoking but believe or not, there are some people wish to stop smoking. The
courage you have, the sayings you keep tell to yourself and the motivation
you’ve maintained till the end are not merely ‘empty’ spirit. Telling your victory of how you no longer
smoke may hit the smoker readers who wish to stop.
2. They are not alone
2. They are not alone
I did mistake and you made mistake too. There’re two types of mistake
which human will consider as a shameful mistake. First, mistake done in the
public and second, mistake done in a private place/ during alone especially you
know it is wrongful/sinful. Mistake done in the public, ah, we all know. Shouting without reason in
a conference session is enough to bring our face into a bright red of shame. How
about mistake done in the private place/ during alone? Committing adultery,
watching pornography (men and women), having depression/anxiety, masturbate (men
and women) and many more.
It’s common to hear that men are much more likely to watch pornography
and masturbate, but it is occasionally rare to hear women watch porno and
masturbate. I give example, there’s girl whom watched porn and sometimes
masturbate in her room, and she knows it’s wrong in the eye of religion. Then,
she realizes she’s a bad girl and feeling lonely of how bad she is. The
depressive story begins.
So, reading your blog about your experience or (maybe not your experience)
ways to cope with that ‘very personal matter’, she realizes she’s not that bad
and still has chance to make herself better.
3. Mind-opening story
3. Mind-opening story
How did I know and mentioned a girl watched porn? So to say, I found a
confession. She’s a Muslim, 19 years old. In the confession, the girl admitted
she watched pornography and can only abstain herself for two weeks. She felt
very embarrassed of herself. She did repent but after a while, she commits
back. The circle of shame rotate as she failed to abstain from it.
For me, this girl is very brave enough to make that of kind confession
even though I found it in a public Facebook page. It indicated she really
wanted to help herself but lack of support. Obviously she never told her family
about this.
Other points of view, I know there are girls indulged in this kind of
matter. The issue of pornography is real (not only for men but also for women).
They wanted to stop, at the same time they also need support. They never open
up about this matter to anyone. For them, it’s shameful.
Why mind-opening story?
We know this kind of people exist, we know they are searching for help
but hiding. We’ll never know what these people feel and encounter the stigma
they have to face. We know we can help, so begin the brainstorming for the next
ideas to reach these people. If we cannot help, enough to take lesson from it.
4. Not to forget that by writing down your experience will develop your self-satisfaction and self-fulfillment.
4. Not to forget that by writing down your experience will develop your self-satisfaction and self-fulfillment.
Jules Evans, one of the Ted Talk speaker, was a drug addict, had
depression and anxiety, his life was miserable and drowned in the deepest level
of darkness in hell. Now, he’s the author of Philosophy for Life Website, a famous
and confident man.
A man whom had a dark past, paved a bright future for himself. Writing
(or telling) will absolutely enhance the rhythm of your self-achievement,
self-satisfaction and self-recovery. However, if you have a strong trust issue,
forget about experience-blogging unless you change your perception first.
So, ya the readers. Have you consider the facts you’ll be facing? Be
brave.
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